IF YOU'RE HERE, YOU'VE PROBABLY TRIED TO IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION IN THE PAST.

Maybe it worked for a while- but then it didn't.

It’s not your fault. What you’ve been told about “healthy communication” has been wrong.

• "Just let it go" doesn’t work.
• Explaining all the reasons why you are right and your partner is wrong doesn’t work.
• Shaming yourself into being a better partner doesn’t work.
• Justifying your silence to “protect” your partner doesn’t work.
• “Don’t go to bed mad” is a recipe for disaster.
• Dating coaches who haven’t lived a long-term relationship are not equipped to help you create a real-life relationship that lasts.

So what does work?

• Learning about your brain and the science behind emotional regulation.
• A mindfulness approach to managing communication.
• Removing shame and justification from the picture.
• Increasing your emotional intelligence and resilience.

You can feel connected again.

You just need the right tools.

"I’ve tried so many communication tools and read a lot of communication books, but it wasn’t until I worked with Aly that I realized the missing piece. I couldn’t access those skills in the heat of the moment! She helped me finally see where to focus my energy so that I could change my bad communication habits.”

— Katherine

DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?

• You worry about your relationship. You worry that you won’t be able to solve your problems and you’ll keep fighting about the same things. You worry you’ll be stuck in an unhappy situation forever.
• You’ve tried to change before but you weren’t able to sustain your progress and ultimately you fell back into the harmful communication habits from before.
• When you have good days in your relationship you start to worry “when is the shoe going to drop?” You’ve conditioned yourself to expect bad outcomes and assume bad intentions, so you’re always walking on eggshells. 

Struggling with communication doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It doesn’t mean you are an unworthy partner.

What you tried in the past didn’t work because it was focused on superficial change, quick fixes, and seeing your partner as the problem. It didn’t teach you what saves relationships long-term: accountability, mindfulness, and practiced emotional resiliency.

Once we get to the root of what's going on, healthy communication becomes so much easier and sustainable.

“Our relationship is finally improving. We still fight, but we no longer name-call, use the silent treatment, or constantly blame each other for the problems. We’re able to get through things so much faster now that we understand how to approach each other from the heart rather than the head.”

- Richard

Hi, I'M Aly

Aly has helped thousands of relationships through her couples therapy and social media coaching on @relationshipswithaly and believes that every relationship deserves a chance at change. 

She has been in the relationship field for over 5 years and is a couple & family therapist and relationship coach.

Her unique, research-based approach works wonders. It’s founded on healthy communication, emotional management and resiliency, and powerful CBT tools. Her process is research-based, trauma-informed, results-focused and is truly effective.