Relationship Advice That Actually Helps You Communicate Better

I’m going to go out on a limb here and overshare a little.

Here are real things I’ve done with my partner over the past ten years to keep our sex life from getting stagnant:

Fun or sexy underwear.
Ne...

You’re not imagining it.

When physical intimacy suddenly drops off in a relationship, especially when it used to feel consistent, your nervous system notices right away. It can feel confusing, unsett...

There’s a relationship pattern I see all the time — especially in couples who genuinely care about each other.

They’re not checked out.
They’re not lazy.
They’re not indifferent.

They’re trying. And y...

I asked my husband this recently, and the moment stuck with me.

Not because he was doing anything wrong.
But because it highlighted a communication dynamic I see all the time.

I had just shared somet...

Here’s a real-life example of a small mindset shift that made a huge difference in how I showed up with my husband.

From “ugh”
to
“I actually love him so much.”

Our almost two-year-old has been protes...

A few days ago, I noticed how quickly stress can change the tone in a relationship.

Nothing big had happened.
No major conflict.
Just one of those weeks where everything feels heavier than usual.

I wa...

Stress has a way of shrinking your world.

When you’re stressed, your nervous system goes into tunnel vision. Suddenly, everything feels urgent, heavy, and personal. You’re overwhelmed, and it starts ...

Here’s a moment from my own relationship that surprised me in the best way.

Last night, my husband and I went to see Hamilton. It was just as incredible as we hoped. Emotional. Beautiful. One of thos...

Y'all, I'm a therapist. Listening is my job. And today, my husband told me that he often feels like I'm not really listening to him. Gut punch. If I'm being honest though, I knew he was right. I knew ...

Let’s just get this out of the way—I’m not here to bash sex. I am, however, here to challenge the way we talk about it, think about it, and (sometimes) put way too much pressure on it. If you're anyth...

This week, someone close to me called me out for having a double standard. Without going into too much detail, about a year ago, I felt frustrated by an interaction with some friends and knew I had to...

Sometimes, I get depressed. Actually, it happens on a monthly basis. Usually, about a week before my period, I catch myself thinking dreadful, existential thoughts like:

• What's the point of all thi
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