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Relationship Advice That Actually Helps You Communicate Better

 

Practical, therapist-approved relationship advice to help you communicate with less defensiveness and more connection. These articles are for couples and individuals who want to feel safer, closer, and more understood—without blaming, exploding, or shutting down. Use these to learn how to show up as the partner you want to be in your relationships.

“Why Are You Interrogating Me?” Understanding Different Communication Styles in Relationships Jan 28, 2026

I asked my husband this recently, and the moment stuck with me.

Not because he was doing anything wrong.
But because it highlighted a communication dynamic I see all the time.

I had just shared somet...

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What Strong Couples Do When Life Gets Stormy Jan 20, 2026

A few days ago, I noticed how quickly stress can change the tone in a relationship.

Nothing big had happened.
No major conflict.
Just one of those weeks where everything feels heavier than usual.

I wa...

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The Easiest Way to Eliminate Criticism in Your Relationship Jan 19, 2026

Here’s a moment from my own relationship that surprised me in the best way.

Last night, my husband and I went to see Hamilton. It was just as incredible as we hoped. Emotional. Beautiful. One of thos...

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How to Listen Better in a Relationship: A Simple Shift That Changes Everything Jan 09, 2026
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Why won't my partner take initiative on things? May 15, 2025
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Knowing how to accept feedback from your partner changes everything Mar 31, 2025

Y'all, I'm a therapist. Listening is my job. And today, my husband told me that he often feels like I'm not really listening to him. Gut punch. If I'm being honest though, I knew he was right. I knew ...

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Sometimes sex is overrated...here's why Mar 14, 2025

Let’s just get this out of the way—I’m not here to bash sex. I am, however, here to challenge the way we talk about it, think about it, and (sometimes) put way too much pressure on it. If you're anyth...

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I caught myself in a double standard...and it sucked. Mar 14, 2025

This week, someone close to me called me out for having a double standard. Without going into too much detail, about a year ago, I felt frustrated by an interaction with some friends and knew I had to...

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If you PMS, or love someone who does, read this Mar 14, 2025

Sometimes, I get depressed. Actually, it happens on a monthly basis. Usually, about a week before my period, I catch myself thinking dreadful, existential thoughts like:

  • What's the point of all thi
  • ...
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Embracing Nostalgia and Finding Presence: How to Treasure Life’s Moments Dec 18, 2024

Dear Friend,

This week, I’ve been feeling a deep longing for home. But where is home? It’s not just a physical place; it’s a feeling etched in my memory. It’s where I felt totally at peace—a space wh...

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The therapist holiday advice you actually want this year Nov 28, 2024
Dear friend, 
 
This one is for all the people out there who are putting unnecessary pressure on themselves to prepare for a perfect holiday season. I wish someone had gi
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How to go from passive to assertive communication Nov 08, 2024
Hey friend,
 
Are you a passive communicator disguising yourself as an altruist? Do you pride yourself on keeping the peace and frequently saying yes when, in reality, you're reaching burnout fast? Le...
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Are you addicted to fighting? Nov 08, 2024
Hey friend,
 
I'm going to ask you a question that might surprise you: are you addicted to the high that you get from fighting with your partner? Does the rush of dopamine ...
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When your partner makes it all about them, try this... Nov 08, 2024
Dear friend, 
 
You've worked up the guts to tell your partner how you're really feeling. All you need is a little support and reassurance that they do care. But somehow, five minutes into the conve...
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When ONE fight derails you completely Nov 08, 2024
Dear friend, 
 
Everything with your partner is going well…you feel like you've made relationship progress, you've been keeping your commitments, and then you get in one ...
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